What's Non-Violence Resistance (NVR)?
This approach uses ideas and methods of non-violent direct action and resistance developed by Gandhi, Martin Luther King and others, which have been adapted for use in family and community settings to help parents and carers with parenting.
The main principles of NVR are:
- Taking a firm stand against violence, risk-taking and anti-social behaviours.
- Holding back from physical or verbal violence.
- Increasing your positive presence in your child’s life.
In line with these three principles you will learn how to:
- De-escalate conflicts with your child;
- Stand your ground with your child.
- Take a firm stand against any acts of violence done by yourself or your child or
- Recruit and utilize a network of supporters who will help you work through these tough situations.
- Break the cycle of shame and silence.
- Rebuild your presence in your child’s life.
- Create and use reconciliation gestures with your child designed to show you love your child and want to rebuild the relationship.
- Deal with a situation if your child runs away from home.
These ideas and suggestions are guidelines and will be explained to you in more detail in a face to face consultation with Swift counsellors.
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